Saturday, March 19, 2011

Sharing My Heart

Today I just want to share what is really on my heart. We are in the process of making decisions concerning my in-laws. They are precious Christians who love the Lord but need lots of help. They have needed help for several years but the their sons (my husband & his brother) just couldn’t bring themselves to make them do it. Here is a little background. Mrs. Story (AKA Nanny) is 88 years old, she has COPD (never smoked a day in her life) and RA. She can do very little for herself and it’s been that way for years. Mr. Story (AKA Papaw) is 87 and has Alzheimer's or Dementia. I think there both the same. He can remember a few things but not much. For the last 15 years he has been the hands & feet in the relationship and she has been the brains. He can no longer remember the things he needs to do for her and she is unable to make him understand what to do. She has lost over 10lbs in the last 3 months. Most of us would say that would be Great, however that bring her weight to 68lbs. She is all skin & bones. I tried for a couple of years to get them to agree to some help. No way was that happening. My husband has the most tender heart and doesn’t want to hurt their feelings or make them mad. His brother is unengaged and not ready to deal with the fact they are old and can’t care for themselves any longer. Lynn goes to their house in the morning during the day and in the evening. Over the last few weeks they have called at night for him to come over for something. He is completely worn out!!! This evening we had a family meeting with Lynn’s parents & his brother. They decided to have hospice come and we would see about the other help. Mrs. Story is just unwilling to help us help her. I plan to move forward in getting help for them full time. Thank you for allowing me to vent! Please pray for us as we make these necessary changes.                                                                              Blessings, Lori